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You Can't Change The Past, But You Can Keep Moving Forward And LEARN From Your Bad Experiences

By Warren Lee

Break ups are not only painful, they throw your life completely upside down. Sometimes it is so disturbing that people lose their will to live. Yet, worse happens when people learn to live with it. They live on, with no regard for life. Even if they try to enjoy and love their lives, they end up failed and frustrated. So, is there really no hope?

As long as there is 'life', there will be 'hope'; and when there is 'hope', there comes a 'will'. Apparently, we all know where 'will' ultimately leads to. Sounds confusing or stupid? Read on and you'll learn what we are talking about.

Everyone deserves to live their life and everyone deserves to live it happily. This applies even to those who have suffered the worst of all break-ups. In the second part of my book 'Forget Her Fast', I have shared tried and tested tips to help 'break-up sufferers' to move and start loving their life once again. Here I will summarize what I have shared in the book.
What's Holding You Back

Once you've entered a motivational mindset, its EXTREMELY addictive and difficult to get out of. You will feel like there's a thick glass sheild surrounding you which nothing can break through unless YOU believe it will increase the quality of your life.

Most people fail to move on because they are holding on to a lot of things that might hold them in the past. They can be letters, photos, messages and gifts, etc, but most importantly these are memories. Sometimes, even a small insignificant event can take you back in the state of regret and remorse. So, whether you throw away those letters and gifts or not, the most important thing is to be prepared to throw away those memories as well.

So, throwing away the physical things doesn't always help everyone. You can put it all in a box and hide it where you won't have to see it again and again. In time, you'll forget about the box and the things, and the memories.
What to Do With That Heart

So, you've thrown or hidden away all the items reminding you of your former relationship, but you still feel the heartache. Ever wonder why you still want to open that box everyday? That is because you haven't gotten rid of those emotions, which keep a part of your heart contaminated with your former love. Now there is something really peculiar about emotions, if you try too hard, you'll get nothing but frustration. So, relax and remind yourself that emotions cannot be avoided completely.

The best way to cope with these emotions is to accept them - and that in a positive manner. Emotions might hurt you initially, but actually they only help you in being stronger. You just have to give them time.
Expect the Anticipated

Imagine how life would be without anticipation! There won't be any excitement in it.

If you are a sport fanatic, you'll agree that we always enjoy the games we anticipate the most. Same goes for life. Anticipate what might be awaiting you next; that better girl, more understanding or even more beautiful. No matter how good your ex was, there are definitely a lot of girls far too better than her. Otherwise, you simply wouldn't have broken up. Expect to meet that better girl, and you'll find yourself more interested in living... living for that moment when you'll meet her.
Live for Now and Later

Now that you are waiting for the perfect girl, analyze if your life is worth her or not. While in the previous relationship, you might have been seriously overlooking your career and your future. With no wedding to prepare for in the near future, all you have to do is live for today and live for your own future. Divert you energy and finances towards your career.

Visiting a motivational seminar might be a very good idea to get you started; a book can be equally resourceful. In the second section of my book, I have shared ten tips to help you achieve your goals and start living for now.

Let me help you get over your ex girlfriend and teach you how to get up and start moving forward from your break-up rather than using it as an excuse to be depressed and miserable!